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18 Things Women Need To Stop Doing To Each Other

Seriously, we are on the same team. (And of course, not all women do these things.)

1. Slut-shaming. Let women make their own decisions and stop feeling like it’s your given right to express your disapproval. Here’s a motto to live by: Not your vagina, not your business.

2. Making comments about other women’s bodies. All comments go straight to the heart and they’re really unnecessary.

3. Seriously, just saying “oh my gosh you’re so skinny” is just as demeaning as commenting on the weight that a girl has gained. Just don’t.

4. Knowingly going after another woman’s significant other. Have respect for other relationships the same way you’d want someone to respect yours.

5. Being jealous of each other’s accomplishments. Be happy for other women and the achievements that they work hard for.

6. Giving backhanded compliments. “Your hair looks great! It would look even better a little shorter.” Wow, thanks?

7. Blaming the “other woman” when the man cheats. First of all, the girl may not have even known he was in a relationship. Why is it that so many girls hate the “other woman” and yet stay with the man? The guy is the one who said he loved you, who vowed commitment to you, and who betrayed you. Stop seeking revenge on the “other woman” and face the reality of the situation.

8. Spreading rumors.

9. Avoiding actual conversation with a woman you’re in a conflict with. Why is it that we sometimes feel the need to tell everyone why we are angry with someone — except that person? Just go straight to the source, and work it out like adults.

10. Vowing secrecy and then still telling a few other women. If a friend tells you something in confidence and requests your discretion, show her the respect that she deserves.

11. Competing with each other. We are all on the same team in this world and when we start fighting against each other, we do nothing but create ridiculous divides.

12. Comparing our bodies. You size up another woman and start comparing her to yourself, and it’s just poisonous. Love who you are and don’t think you need to look like anyone else.

13. Criticizing each other’s personalities. When a girl is talkative, stop calling her annoying. When a girl is more quiet, stop calling her stuck up.

14. Being fake to each other. If you have a problem with another woman, simply don’t associate with her. Don’t pretend to be her friend only to laugh with your other peers about how awful she is.

15. Resenting each other’s significant others. I know it stinks a little when one of your friends gets into a relationship and doesn’t spend as much time with you because of it. However, the only thing your hating her significant other achieves is distance between you and your friend.

16. Being enemies with each other for no reason. If someone asks you why you don’t like a certain girl and you literally have no answer for that question, give it up.

17. Using the shortcomings of other women to make themselves look better. Don’t put down another girl’s decisions to give you more confidence in your own.

18. Sub-tweeting about each other or crafting any kind of indirect social media post. Junior high is over. We are way too old for this sh*t.

Love and be loved by other women, because when we work together we are a force to be reckoned with.


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Anonymous asked: hello :) my partner and I broke up a little while ago and we considered getting back together but he decided that his heart wasnt in it so we parted ways. Not too long after, we reconnected and ended up sleeping together. I'm pretty sure that it was just a casual thing and I've been treating it as so, mostly so that I dont get disappointed/feelings hurt and so that I dont freak him out. We have been txting but I know he also talks to other women. What are your thoughts on this situation?
Answered By try-to-stay-positive:

Hello :) Mhm, I think you are two people who broke up, missed each other afterwards but weren’t ready to get back together and slept with each other instead and this is the end of the story.

He was honest enough to tell you that his heart wasn’t in it and that there isn’t enough love to try it again. Even though you slept together some time after that, it’s not really changing the facts. Sure it makes it a bit more complicated since it makes you question the situation. But it’s probably good that you try to see it as casual thing, so you don’t get your hopes up and you won’t get too disappointed and hurt.

Ending a relationship is never easy and sometimes you miss your partner even though there is not enough love to get back together. That’s simply because of the memories and the way the person made you feel good. And so you miss being surrounded with that love, warmth and comfort but somewhere deep inside your heart knows you won’t find that by your former partner. But that person is still a part of your life and so you try it anyway. And you maybe reconnect and sleep together, but it’s not the same and even with your past it’s not something big but just two people who slept together, a casual one night stand. With the difference that you’ve not been strangers which leads to the complication to interpret more into the night.

I don’t want to say that there isn’t the chance that both of you have still some kind of feelings for each other because that’s out of my way to know. But interpreting from the things I know, I think it’s over. But depends on how you treat each other and what you text and how close you are, I could be wrong.

Yet, don’t hold yourself back out of fear to freak him out. Because do you want to be together with someone when you can’t be truly yourself? So listen to your heart and think about the conversation were he was telling you that his heart isn’t into it and build your opinion if this is still relevant or speak with him to know what’s going on.

Through that all, don’t lose yourself in overthinking and analyzing and focus on yourself. Your whole being, that’s enough and wonderful :)

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The Oh Hello's
Hello, My Old Heart

hello my old heart
it’s been so long since i’ve given you away
everyday i add another stone
to the walls i built around you
to keep you safe

because nothing lasts forever 
some things aren’t meant to be 
but you’ll never find the answers 
until you set your old heart free

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